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48 Imithetho yamandla yincwadi edumile eyabhalwa uRobert Greene ehlanganisa iminyaka engu-3000+ yokuhlakanipha namasu namaqhinga mayelana nempumelelo namandla. Le ncwadi iqukethe ulwazi oludluliselwe emakhulwini eminyaka luvela ezinkanyini ezidumile ezifana noSun Tzu, Machiavelli, Henry Kissinger, kanye no-PT Barnum.
The 48 Imithetho Yamandla iyimanuwali “okufanele ube nayo” yanoma ubani onentshisekelo yokuzuza, ukubukela, noma ukuvikela ekusetshenzisweni abanye. Umbhali ucabanga ukudlala ngamandla njengomdlalo. Ngakho ungasebenzisa incwadi ukuze ufunde ngamandla ngokujwayelekile. Noma funda isihloko ujule. Noma ngezinhloso ezimbi.
NgokukaGreen, lapho uba ngcono futhi uqonda kanye namandla okuphatha, uzoba ngcono njengomngane, isithandwa, umlingani webhizinisi. Uzofunda ukwenza abanye bazizwe bejabule futhi lokho kuzobenza bancike kuwe njengoba uzoba umthombo wenjabulo enkulu.
Imithetho engama-48 yezilinganiso zamandla
"Imithetho Yamandla Engama-48" ihlelwe njengohlu oluningiliziwe olucubungula umthetho ngamunye ngokuningiliziwe. Kulesi sifinyezo esithi “48 Laws of Power”, sibheka izingcaphuno ezinhle kakhulu ezivela encwadini njengoba sikuhambisa esifingqweni esiphezulu seMithetho Yamandla engama-48 eshiwo encwadini.
Umthetho 1. Ungalokothi Udlule Inkosi
Njalo yenza labo abangaphezulu kwakho kusigaba samandla ukuthi bazizwe bephakeme kunawe. Vumela umuntu ozama ukuba “ngu-alpha” kube yilowo muntu ukuze angakuboni njengokuncintisana.
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Fihla izinga lamakhono akho, ukuze ungabenzi bazizwe besongelwa noma bengavikelekile. Iqhinga liwukuba nozwelo nokungasongeli. Uma ubenza babonakale kangcono, bazozizwa ngokwengeziwe ukuthi ukhona ukuze ubakhonze futhi lokho kuyokusiza ukuba uthole amandla amakhulu.
Uzosiza abantu abangaphezulu kwakho bazizwe bevikelekile futhi bephakeme kunawe futhi lokho kuzothopha ukuzazisa kwabo futhi ngeke bazizwe besongelwa. Ungenza ngisho namaphutha angenabungozi noma ube nemibuzo elula ongayibuza ukuze bazizwe bebalulekile ngokukuvumela ukuthi ubonise amandla akho noma uwaxazulule.
Umthetho 2. Ungalokothi Ubeke Ukuthembela Kakhulu Kubangani, Funda Ukusebenzisa Izitha
Abangane bathambekele kakhudlwana ekubeni nomona futhi maningi amathuba okuba bakukhaphele. Ngakho kufanele wesabe kakhulu abangane bakho kunezitha zakho.
Ngokuvamile abangani bakho abahlanganyeli ngezinkolelo nezinhloso zabo zangempela ngakho ungase ucabange ukuthi wazi abangane bakho kangcono kunawe. NgokukaGreene, ukwethembeka akuvamile ukuqinisa izibopho ngakho abangane bavame ukufihla imizwa yabo yangempela ngomunye nomunye.
Kungcono ukungaqashi abangani ngoba bazozizwa befanelekile futhi bathambekele ekuxebukeni kunomuntu ongabazi. Lokho kuzokusiza ukuthi ukwahlulela kwakho kungabi nomthelela omubi yimizwa.
Umthetho 3. Fihla Izinhloso Zakho
Hlala ufihla izinhloso zakho futhi uzigcine zifihliwe noma zifihliwe.
Uma izimbangi zakho zingazazi izinhloso zakho zangempela, kuba nzima ukuthi bazivikele. Balahlekiseni futhi kuyobe sekwephuze kakhulu lapho sebebona izinhlelo zakho. Kuyoba sekwephuzile ukuthi baphendule ngendlela efanele. Ungasebenzisa ukuthambekela komuntu kokwethemba ukubonakala futhi ukulawule ukuze kuzuze wena.
Khumbula indaba ka Ihhashi leThrojani?
Ngokulengisa isethi yezinhloso zenkohliso phambi kwabamelene nawe noma izitha, ngeke bakubone ukuthi uhloseni ngempela!
Uma uvala izinhloso zakho futhi ubonakale ubambisana, abantu bazokubona unobungane futhi uthembekile futhi lokho kuzobaholela phambili endleleni engalungile.
Futhi, uma uhlangana futhi ungabonakali uzama ukunakwa, abantu bazothemba abajwayelekile futhi bazoba mancane amathuba okuthi basole.
Umthetho 4. Njalo Isho Okuncane Kunesidingo
Isisho esithi "okuncane kungaphezulu" sisebenza lapha. Uma ungumuntu onamandla, ungahlaba abanye umxhwele ngokusho okuncane.
Eqinisweni uma usho kakhulu, maningi amathuba okuthi ugcine ususho into ewubuwula. Lokhu kuwumqondo ovamile, akunjalo? Kodwa ungamangala ukuthi abantu abaningi bayakukhohlwa lokhu njalo!
Ngenxa yokuthi abantu bahlale bezama ukuthola lokho abanye okubonakala bekucabanga, ukuthula kuzobenza bazizwe bengakhululekile.
Ekugcineni, ngokulawula okuvezayo, ungasebenzisa amandla amakhulu. Umuntu okhuluma naye kungenzeka agcwalise izithulo ozishiyayo, aveze ulwazi olwengeziwe mayelana nezinhloso zakhe kanye nobuthakathaka bakhe.
Umthetho 5. Okuningi Kakhulu Kuncike Edumeni - Kuqaphe Ngempilo Yakho
Isithunzi sakho siphambi kwakho njengoba kusho isisho sakudala. Ungasebenzisa idumela lakho ukuze usabise abanye futhi “uwine” kodwa uma isithunzi sakho sonakala noma sibi, uba sengozini yokuhlaselwa.
Uma wenza isithunzi sakho sibe namandla futhi singangeneki ungabikezela ukuhlaselwa ngaphambi kokuthi kwenzeke.
Ungazisiza lapha ngokuthola nokusebenzisa izimbobo esithunzini sezitha zakho futhi uvumele ukuduma kwazo esidlangalaleni kuzibhubhise.
Umthetho 6. Ukunakwa Kwenkantolo Ngazo Zonke Izindleko
Abantu bazokwahlulela ekuqaleni nangaphandle ngokubukeka kwakho. Ngakho-ke sebenzisa lolu lwazi futhi uzenze ubonakale uthakazelisa futhi ungaqondakali kubantu abaningi - lokho kuzokwenza uvelele!
Iqhinga elilodwa ukuzungeza igama lakho ngemizwa namahlazo. Cabanga ngalokho okwenziwa osaziwayo lapha ukuze bagcine igama labo kuma-tabloids egossip.
Ukwaziwa kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo kuletha amandla futhi kungcono ukunakwa okungalungile futhi kunyundelwe, kunokunganakwa!
Indlela esebenzayo wukwakha umoya wemfihlakalo eduze kwakho ngokugcina amakhadi akho eseduze nesifuba sakho. Abantu bavame ukukhangwa yilabo ababonakala beyindida. Uma ungaqondakali, abantu bazobe bezibuza ukuthi yini umnyakazo wakho olandelayo futhi lokho kuzodala ukulangazelela kanye nelukuluku kuwe nasezenzweni zakho.
Umthetho 7. Thola Abanye Bakwenzele Umsebenzi, Kodwa Njalo Thatha Ikhredithi
Ungalokothi uzenzele lokho imizamo yabanye engakwenzela yona. Lesi yisimiso esiwumongo sokuvumela abanye ukuthi bakusize futhi uvumele ukuhlakanipha nolwazi lwabo luqhubekisele phambili injongo yakho.
Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi ubonakale unolwazi. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, abantu bazokhumbula wena hhayi abantu abasebenza ngemuva ukuze bakusize.
Ngeke ukhiqize kancane ngempilo yakho uma uzama ukuzenzela yonke into futhi ungafiki kude. Ngakho thola abantu abanamakhono ongenawo ngoba bazokusiza. Ungabaqasha futhi bangafaka isandla emizamweni yakho. Ukuze wenze lokhu ngempumelelo, isikhundla sakho kufanele sivikeleke futhi uzobangela ukuhlehla okukhulu uma ubonakala uthatha isikweletu ngezenzo zabanye. Kunalokho, yazise iminikelo yabo futhi ubenze bazizwe bebalulekile ukuze baqhubeke bekusebenzela futhi bathuthukise imizamo yakho.
Umthetho 8. Yenza Abanye Abantu Beze Kuwe - Sebenzisa Isiyengo Uma Kunesidingo
Kungcono ukuthi umphikisi wakho eze kuwe. Kuhle ukubaheha bese ubahlasela. Uma befuna wena, kuzomele balahle izinhlelo zabo namasu ohlelweni futhi bazobe besabela kuwe. Azikwazi ukusukumela phezulu futhi zihole izinto uma zisasebenza.
Uma udlala umdlalo omude (wesikhathi eside), ungahlala ugoqe futhi uhlale uzolile njengoba abanye bebhajwa ezingibeni obahlelele.
Khumbula ukuthi izicupho zakho zinhle kuphela njengokukhanga okucatshangwayo kwe-bait kulezo zingibe. Udinga ukusebenzisa isiyelo esihle ngempela futhi esizokwenza umphikisi wakho angaliboni iqiniso lemizwa yakhe ukuze uzuze isandla esiphezulu.
Umthetho 9. Wina Ngezenzo Zakho, Ungalokothi Ngokuphikisana
Ayikho ngempela into enjengokuthi “ukuwina” ingxabano ngoba uma wenza omunye umuntu acasuke, uyoba umphikisi onamandla futhi uma ungazange umenze ashintshe imibono yakhe, uzuze isikhashana nje. ukwaneliseka ngokubenza bazinikele.
Isu lemiphumela eyengeziwe ukuvumela izenzo zakho zikhulumele wena. Uma ungakwazi ukushintsha imiqondo yabantu futhi uthole ukuvumelana kwabo nezenzo zakho, maningi amathuba okuthi uguqule imibono ehlala njalo.
Amagama ashibhile - njengoba ibinzana elidala lithi "amagama ayi-dime a dozen" - futhi abantu bazosho noma yini ukuze baveze iphuzu kodwa kudinga umzamo omncane. Bheka ukushintsha izenzo esikhundleni salokho ngoba lokho kuzoholela oguqukweni oluhlala njalo nokwesekwa nokuvumelana ngezikhundla zakho.
Umthetho 10. Ukutheleleka: Gwema Abangajabule Nabanganeshwa
Izimo ezingokomzwelo zingathathelwana futhi zithelele abantu njengezifo. Uma uchitha isikhathi esiningi useduze nabantu abangajabulile, ababi, abaneshwa, noma ngezinye izikhathi izinto ezimbi ezihlale zenzeka kubo, amandla abo angokomzwelo azokwehlisa uma uchitha isikhathi esiningi phambi kwabo. Ngakho qiniseka ukuthi uzihlanganisa nabantu abajabulayo, abaphumelelayo nabaphumelelayo.
Izinhlobo zabantu ezingajabulisi njalo zivame ukuzibona njengezisulu futhi azisoze zazibona ziyimbangela yamashwa nosizi lwazo. Uma uzihlanganisa kakhulu nabadabukile, uchitha isikhathi sakho esibalulekile futhi uqeda amandla akho okungenzeka.
Umthetho 11. Funda Ukugcina Abantu Bethembele Kuwe
Ukuze ube ezimele, udinga ukwenza abanye bakufune futhi bakudinga. Badinga ukuncika kuwena, ukuze nawe uzizwele inkululeko yakho. Uma ufundisa abantu abaseduze kwakho ukwenza yonke into, bazothola ukuzimela futhi bangabe besancika kuwe. Uma usunabantu abancike kuwe, uzoba namandla engeziwe phezu kwabo.
Umthetho 12. Sebenzisa Ukwethembeka Okukhethiwe Nokuphana ukuze Ukhiphe Izikhali Isisulu Sakho
Ngisho nesenzo esisodwa esiqotho singasiza ekuvikeleni izenzo eziningi zokungathembeki. Futhi uma uphana ungaphuca izikhali ngisho nabantu abangathembekile nabasolisayo. Uma ukwazi ukuphuca abantu izikhali, ungabasebenzisa ngokuthanda kwakho.
Isihluthulelo sokukhohlisa okuphumelelayo ukuphazamisa abantu. Ngokuphana, uzophazamisa abantu ofisa ukubakhohlisa kuyilapho ubathopha ngothando. Bayoba njengezingane ezithambile futhi bazobona izenzo zakho ngendlela eqondile futhi benqabe ukubona ukungathembeki kwakho, ngisho nalapho abanye bekubonisa.
Umthetho 13. Lapho Ucela Usizo, Phendula Ezifisweni Zabanye, Ungalokothi Ubonise Umusa Noma Ukubonga Kwabo.
Uma kufanele ucele usizo kwabanye, qiniseka ukuthi isicelo sakho sihlanganisa inzuzo yozakwethu. Ngaleyo ndlela, lapho kubonakala sengathi bazothola inzuzo ngokukusiza, bayosabela ngentshiseko. Khumbula nje ukuthi ukuheha intshisekelo yakho kuyisisusa esikhulu sabantu.
Uma usutholile ukuthi abanye bafunani futhi ungakhanga ukuzithakasela kwabo, ngeke ube nemingcele kulokho ongakufeza njengoba ungathola ibutho elizokusiza uthuthukise izinhlelo zakho futhi uthole amandla.
Umthetho 14. Zibeke Njengomngane, Sebenza Njengenhloli
Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuthola amandla phezu kwezimbangi zakho ukuba nolwazi ngazo. Uma bekubona ungumuntu onobungane ungabuza imibuzo futhi ubazi futhi uzoqonda ubuthakathaka nezinhloso zabo. Khona-ke uzokwazi ukuqonda ukuthi bazozibona kanjani izimo. Bazosabela kanjani, futhi uzokwazi ukubikezela izenzo zabo.
Ungakwazi futhi ukusiza abanye abantu ukuba uthole ukuba inhloli ngawe. Uma wenza lokho futhi ubandakanya abanye, uzivulela ithuba lokuba sengcupheni ngokuvumela abanye bakwenzele umsebenzi wakho. Ngakho ekugcineni kungcono ukwenza ukuhlola kwakho futhi ugcine indilinga encane.
Umthetho 15. Gcoba Isitha Sakho Ngokuphelele
Uma uchoboza isitha sakho kancane, ekugcineni sizolulama futhi sibuye siziphindiselele kakhulu!
Ungathola ukuthula nokuzola kuphela uma izitha zakho zingasekho. Uma ukwazi ukususa zonke izinketho zomphikisi wakho, ngeke babe nakho ukukhetha ngaphandle kokugoba entandweni yakho. Ngokungabaniki lutho abangaxoxisana nabo futhi ungabi nendawo yokuqondisa, uyobe ubachobozile.
Umthetho 16. Sebenzisa Ukungabibikho Ukuze Ukhulise Inhlonipho Nodumo
Uma uhlezi ukhona futhi ukhona futhi utholakala, abantu bazokuthatha kalula.
Ngakho-ke dala inani elibonakalayo eliphezulu kanye nomoya wokushoda eduze kwakho ngokukhetha ukungatholakali kancane. Ngamafuphi, khipha ngezikhathi ezithile futhi ungatholakali kancane.
Umthetho 17. Gcina Abanye Ebuphekweni Obumisiwe: Hlakulela Umoya Wokungabikezeli
Ngokuvamile, abantu bayizidalwa zomkhuba. Njengabantu sibheka ukuziphatha okujwayelekile, okungaguquki kwabanye ukuze sibone amaphethini.
Uma wenza ngokungalindelekile, abamelene nawe bazokhathala njengoba bezama ukubikezela nokuhlaziya iminyakazo yakho. Kwesinye isikhathi ungashaya ngaphandle kwesixwayiso.
Uma wenza ngokubikezela, unikeza abanye amandla phezu kwakho kodwa uma wenza ngokungalindelekile, abanye bazozwa sengathi abakuqondi futhi bazokwethuka.
Uma ungumuntu ongaphansi, ungadida izitha zakho ukuze zenze iphutha lamaqhinga ngokusebenzisa lelisu lokwenza umnyakazo ongalindelekile.
Umthetho 18. Ungazakhi Izinqaba Ukuze Uzivikele - Ukuzihlukanisa Kuyingozi
Ungase ucabange ukuthi kufanele uthole amandla bese wakha inqaba ukuze uzivikele kwabanye. Kodwa lokhu akulungile!
Uma uzihlukanisa nezwe kanye nezitha zakho uzohlukaniswa nabanye kanye nomphakathi. Futhi lokho kukwenza ube sengozini enkulu yokuhlaselwa ngoba uzolahlekelwa ukuxhumana kwakho nomphakathi. Amandla avela ekusebenzelaneni komphakathi.
Ngakho kunokuba uhlale wedwa futhi uhluke kwabanye, yiba isizinda senkundla yezenhlalo. Lawula imvelo ngokuqondisa imicimbi yomphakathi lapho ungakwazi ukunweba nakakhulu umbuthano wakho wokuxhumana nabantu. Esikhundleni sokuphendukela ngaphakathi futhi ube wedwa, phendulela ukunaka kwakho ngaphandle komphakathi futhi ufune ozakwethu abadala, xhuma kabusha nabanye, futhi wandise imibuthano yakho yokuxhumana.
Umthetho 19. Yazi Usebenza Nobani - Ungamcasuli Umuntu Ongalungile
Qaphela ukuthi unganqobi izitha zakho ngamandla kangangokuthi zifuna ukuchitha izinsuku zazo zenza uzungu lokubuyela kuwe futhi zifune ukuziphindiselela. Kuyasiza ukugwema ukucasula abantu abangalungile. Wazi kanjani? Ngokuba nekhono lokuhlola kahle abantu futhi ubone ukuthi basabela kanjani ezindabeni ezincane.
Futhi uma usebenza noma usondelana nomuntu, qiniseka ukuthi uyamazi ngempela. Ungalokothi ukwethembe ukubonakala kokuqala - qiniseka ukuthi uyakuqonda ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi unolwazi olujulile.
Umthetho 20. Ungazibophezeli Kumuntu
Kufanele uzinikele kuwena nasekuzimeleni kwakho, kunokuba uzinikele kwabanye.
Lokhu kukuvumela ukuthi udlale abantu ngokuhlukana ngoba uzobe uvumelana nezimo.
Gwema izimpi ezincane nezincane kanye nedrama. Vumela abanye balwe ngenkathi wena ubukele eceleni.
Kwesinye isikhathi, kuyisu elihle ukudala ukungqubuzana kwamanye amaqembu ngoba ungathola amandla ngokusebenza njengenqamuli phakathi.
Umthetho 21. Dlala I-Sucker Ukuze Ubambe I-Sucker - Ivele I-Dumber Kunophawu Lwakho
Akekho othanda ukuzizwa eyisithutha, ngakho-ke iqhinga elihle ukwenza izimbangi zakho zizizwe zihlakaniphile kunawe.
Ngaleyo ndlela bazocabanga ukuthi bahlakaniphe kakhulu futhi ngeke bazizwe besongelwa nguwe futhi bangalokothi basole ukuthi unezisusa ezicashile.
Umthetho 22. Sebenzisa i-Surender Tactic: Guqula Ubuthakathaka Bube Emandleni
Uma usuzohlulwa, ngesinye isikhathi kuhle ukuzinikela. Lokhu kuzokunika isikhathi esengeziwe sokuhlela ukuziphindiselela kwakho.
Futhi, ngokuzinikela, ungabaphika ukwaneliseka kokukubhubhisa futhi uguqule isenzo sakho sokuzinikela sibe yinzuzo, okuyinto ephikisana kakhulu!
Uma uvuma, uthola amandla aphezulu. Ungakwazi ukukhohlisa isitha sakho sikholelwe ukuthi "sinqobile" njengoba uhlela ukuwa kwaso emgwaqeni.
Umthetho 23. Gxilisa Amandla Akho
Londoloza amandla akho futhi ugxile emthonjeni owodwa wamandla.
Bheka into ethize ezokusekela isikhathi eside esizayo njengoba ezokunika ulwazi olujulile namandla ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Khumbula nje ukuthi amandla akhona ngendlela egxilile. Isibonelo, enhlanganweni, kuvame ukuba neqembu elincane eliphethe amandla amaningi. Udinga ukugxila emandleni akho futhi ube yingxenye ye-power elite.
Umthetho 24. Dlala Inkundla Ephelele
Ijaji eliphelele lisebenzisa amandla ngokubona. Ungazuza amandla ngokusebenzisa ukuthopha, ukuthandeka kanye nomusa. Kunezinyathelo ezimbalwa ongazithatha ukuze ube inkantolo efanelekile ehlanganisa ukungaziphathi kahle, ukonga ngokuthopha, ukulungisa isitayela nolimi lwakho ukuze luvumelane nezilaleli zakho, ugweme ukuba umthwali wezindaba ezimbi, ukungagxeki abaphathi bakho, ukuzibona, ukulawula imizwa yakho, nokuba umthombo wenjabulo.
Umthetho 25. Zidale Kabusha
Kunokuba wamukele indima umphakathi okunike yona, zenzele owakho ubuwena!
Yakha ubuwena obuyala ukunakwa nokuba yinkosi futhi udale isithombe sakho, kunokuvumela abanye bakunqumele sona. Empeleni uyifemu yakho yobudlelwane bomphakathi.
Zenzele kabusha umfanekiso wamandla njengokungathi uzibumbela odakeni.
Ukufeza le nhloso, kufanele ube nezinga lokuzazi futhi ufunde ukulawula imizwa yakho. Khona-ke kufanele udale umlingiswa ongenakulibaleka. Ngemva kokwenza lokho ungafunda ukudlala izindima eziningi ukuze uzivumelanise nesimo esithile.
Umthetho 26. Gcina Izandla Zakho Zihlanzekile
Ukuze uthole amandla kufanele ugcine ukubukeka okungenabala ukuze ungalokothi uhlotshaniswe nanoma yiziphi izinto ezimbi. Uma ubandakanyeka ezenzweni ezimbi, kubalulekile ukusebenzisa abanye njengezimbuzi ukuze ufihle ukuzibandakanya kwakho. Isithunzi sakho sincike kakhulu kulokho okufihlayo ngakho-ke kufanele uhlale unembuzi yomhlatshelo uma udinga umuntu ozomsola nganoma yimiphi imisebenzi edwetshiwe noma engabazekayo.
Ngaphandle kokusebenzisa i-scapegoat, kukhona “udladla lwekati” – umuntu okwenzela umsebenzi wakho ongcolile kuyilapho efihla ukuzibandakanya kwakho. Lokhu kungase kusho ukuvumela omunye umuntu ukuba abe umthwali wezidingo ezimbi ukuze uhlotshaniswe nezindaba ezinhle. Futhi lokho kusiza ukugcina idumela lakho lilihle nezandla zakho zihlanzekile.
Umthetho 27. Dala Ukulandela Okufana Nenkolo Ngokudlala Ngesidingo Sabantu Sokukholelwa
Abantu badinga umuntu abazomlandela nento abangakholelwa kuyo.
Uma ungakha inkolo efana nomholi womuntu futhi uthole iqembu elikhulu labalandeli abathembekile, bazokunikeza amandla amakhulu.
Umthetho 28. Ngena Esenzweni Ngesibindi
Abantu bayababaza futhi babheke phezulu ukuze babe nesibindi. Kodwa abanamahloni ngokuvamile bayacasuka.
Kuhlale kungcono ukwenza ngesibindi.
Bambalwa abantu abazalwa benesibindi nakuba kunjalo lokhu kuwumkhuba odinga ukuhlakulelwa, umkhuba nokuzikhandla.
Uma unamahloni, kuzodingeka usebenze kanzima ukuze ushintshe lo mkhuba futhi ubeke isibindi esikhundleni sawo.
Umthetho 29. Hlela yonke indlela kuze kube sekugcineni
Abantu abangabaholi ababuthaka ngokuvamile abakwazi ukucabanga kahle noma ngolimi lwe-chess, “hlela izinto ezimbalwa kusengaphambili.”
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uhlale uhlela izinto kuze kube sekugcineni. Kufanele ucabange ngawo wonke amathuba angakuvimbela ekufinyeleleni umgomo wakho wokugcina. Ngokuhlela okufanele kwesimo, uzokwazi ukuzivumelanisa nezimo futhi ushintshe futhi ubhekane nezimanga nezithiyo kanye nokuchezuka ohambweni.
Abantu abaningi abahleli kahle noma bacabangisise kahle. Uma uhlela kusengaphambili ngale ndlela, uzoba nesandla esiphezulu.
Ukuba nombono kuyisihluthulelo sokuba umholi omkhulu nonamandla.
Umthetho 30. Yenza Okufezayo Kubonakale Kunzima
Uma wenza lokho okufezile kubonakale kulula, kukwenza ubonakale unekhono kunabanye. Okungase kube nzima kwabanye, "akusebenzi" kuwe - lowo umbono ohlale ufuna ukuwudlulisa.
Ngakho-ke fihla umzamo omkhulu namaqhinga owasebenzisile ukufeza izinhloso zakho futhi ungabatsheli ukuthi ufike kanjani lapho ukuze bangakwazi ukukukopisha.
Ungagcina inzuzo yeqhinga phezu kwabanye ngokuthula.
Umthetho 31. Lawula Izinketho: Thola Abanye Badlale Ngamakhadi Osebenza Ngayo
Uma unikeza izimbangi zakho ukukhetha, bazozizwa belawula isiphetho sabo. Kodwa abangeke bakubone ukuthi uzisebenzisa ngoba bekhetha phakathi kwezigqoko obanike zona.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bakhethani, kufanele kukuzuzise.
Setha uhla oluncane lwezinketho ezikuzuzisayo bese ungabaqondisa esinqumweni abacabanga ukuthi basenze…kodwa okuzuzisa kakhulu!
Umthetho 32. Dlala Ngemicabango Yabantu
Iqiniso neqiniso ngokuvamile kuyinselele futhi kubi. Uma unxusa lokho, abantu bangase bathukuthele futhi bazizwe bedangele.
Ngakho esikhundleni sokugxila eqinisweni, dlala ku fantasy. Abantu bazogelezela kuwe njengoba unikeza enye indlela yokudumazeka kweqiniso.
Bona lapho okungokoqobo kubangela abantu imizwelo engemihle futhi usebenzise lezo zihloko namatimu ukuhlanganisa amaphupho akhanga ukuthi bangathanda ukuthi izinto zibe kanjani.
Umthetho 33. Zitholele Isithupha Somuntu Ngamunye
Thola abaphikisi bakho ubuthakathaka kanye amaphuzu ubuhlungu.
Ngokuvamile lokhu kuyoba ukungalondeki, isifiso esiyimfihlo, noma umzwelo noma isifiso esingalawuleki.
Umthetho 34. Yiba Wasebukhosini Ngemfashini Yakho: Yenza Njengenkosi Ukuphathwa Njengayo
Abantu bazokuphatha ngendlela oziveza ngayo emhlabeni.
Ngakho…zithwale ngokuzihlonipha, ukuzethemba, kanye nesithunzi.
Yenza kubonakale sengathi ubumiselwe amandla.
Khanyisa izinkolelo zakho ngaphandle ukuze nabanye bakholwe.
Umthetho 35. Ingcweti kwezobuciko bokugcina isikhathi
Ukubekezela kuwubuhle futhi kuveza ukuthi unokukhetha kanye nezinketho.
Ungalokothi ubonakale umatasatasa. Abantu abajahile banemizwa noma abanazo izinketho.
Kodwa unamandla futhi unezinketho, ngakho-ke ungalinda futhi ushaye ngenkathi insimbi ishisa.
Umthetho 36. Ukweyisa Izinto Ongeke Ubenazo: Ukungazinaki Kuyimpindiselo Engcono Kakhulu
Ungabonakala uphakeme ngokuba nesithakazelo esincane ezintweni ezikucasulayo.
Uma ugxila esitheni sakho noma ezintweni ezingezinhle, ziqeda amandla namandla akho.
Umthetho 37. Dala Izibuko Ezikhangayo
Ungakwazi ukukhulisa ubukhona bakho namandla ngokudala ukuthinta okukhulu, nokunaka ukuthola ukuthinta.
Abantu bazomangala kakhulu ngesitayela ukuze baveze ukuthi wenzani ngempela.
Ukubaluleka kokuthinta okubukwayo ukuthi kudlulisa amandla athinta imizwa futhi kuzokhumbuleka kakhulu.
Khumbula isisho sakudala esithi "isithombe silingana namagama ayi-1000."
Umthetho 38. Cabanga Ngokuthanda kwakho, kodwa Uziphathe Njengabanye
Kungcono ukuzijwayeza ukuxubana nokufihla imizwa nezinhloso zakho zangempela. Ngaleyo ndlela uzohlangana njengengxenye yesixuku futhi abantu ngeke bakubone njengomuntu omelene naye ofanelekayo…kuze kube yilapho sekuhlwile kakhulu!
Umthetho 39. Hlanganisa Amanzi Ukuze Ubambe Izinhlanzi
Uma ukwazi ukuhlala uzolile ngenkathi uthola izimbangi zakho zingokomzwelo futhi zithukuthele, ungathola inzuzo.
Uma uthola ubuthakathaka babo, ungabulawula futhi ubalawule ngokuthanda kwabo.
Lapho beba nemizwelo eyengeziwe futhi bethukuthele, bazovela inhlekisa ngokwengeziwe. Futhi uyoba umuntu ozolile. Uzobonakala unamandla kakhulu ngokuqhathanisa.
Umthetho 40. Udelele Isidlo Sasemini Samahhala
Ungathembeki ezintweni ezibonakala zinikezwa “mahhala.” Noma yini enenani, inezindleko ezihambisana nayo futhi okufanele uyikhokhele.
Uma uthola okuthile mahhala, ungase uzizwe ubophekile kumuntu okunikezile. Imizwa yakho izobe idlala.
Kunalokho, zikhokhele wena izinto futhi ugweme ukuba nezibopho ezingokomzwelo noma ezingokwengqondo zokwamukela ukudla kwasemini kwamahhala, izipho, noma ezinye izinto.
Umthetho 41. Gwema Ukungena Ezicathulweni Zomuntu Omkhulu
Uma ungowokuqala ngento uyohlale ukhunjulwa ngokomlando ngokuthi yiyona “original”.
Kufanele uzenzele elakho igama nobuwena ukuze ungakhohlakali ethunzini labasunguli bokuqala.
Thola indlela yokugqama futhi uhluke, futhi udale ubukhona bakho obungeke bukhohlwe.
Umthetho 42. Shaya uMalusi, Zihlakazeke Izimvu
Uma kunenkinga, funa umthombo oyinhloko. Zithole futhi uzikhiphe ohlelweni, isimo, inkampani, njll. Lokho kuzomisa ithonya labo.
Emaqenjini amaningi, amandla agxile kubaholi abambalwa. Ngakho-ke uma uqonda ukuthi ubani olawula iqembu, ungaba nomthelela omkhulu ekwehliseni amandla abo ngokushesha.
Umthetho 43. Sebenza Ezinhliziyweni Nasemiqondweni Yabanye
Ukuphoqwa kwenza abantu bacasuke. Ngakho esikhundleni sokusebenzisa impoqo kungcono ukuyenga abanye ukuze benze ngendlela ofisa ngayo ngaphandle kokuthi ubabuze.
Ngokuqonda ingqondo yabo kanye nobuthakathaka babo, ungadlala ngemizwa yabo futhi unqobe izinhliziyo nezingqondo zabo ukuze bathembeke kuwe.
Kancane kancane thambisa abantu (cabanga ngokuthambisa ibhotela) bese bebumba intando yakho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ngaphandle kokuqaphela.
Umthetho 44. Susa Izikhali futhi Uthukuthele Ngomphumela Wesibuko
Uma ukwazi ukulingisa izimbangi zakho futhi wenze abakwenzayo, ungabalulaza futhi ubenze bathatheke ngokweqile.
Uma ubenza bakholwe ukuthi wabelana ngezindinganiso zabo, bazophuphuthekiswa ukubona kwakho isibuko futhi bakuthole kuyinselele ukwenza isu lokukubekela inselelo.
Umthetho 45. Shumayela Isidingo Soshintsho, Kodwa Ungalokothi Uguquke Kakhulu Kanye
Uma usanda kuthola isikhundla kufanele uhloniphe indlela abantu abebephila ngayo kuze kube manje.
Uma ushintsha izinto ngokushesha kakhulu ungadala ukuvukela futhi udale ukumelana okukhulu nemizamo yakho yokuguqula.
Uzoba umholi osebenza ngempumelelo uma wenza intuthuko kancane kancane futhi uzuze abantu eceleni kwakho futhi wakhe imifelandawonye njengoba uhamba.
Umthetho 46. Ungalokothi Ubonakale Uphelele Kakhulu
Nakuba ukubonakala uphakeme kunabanye kuyingozi, ukubonakala ungenasici futhi ungenawo ubuthakathaka kuyingozi nakakhulu. Ngokubonisa imikhuba emibi engenangozi, uvimbela umona ukuba uthuthuke, futhi uzenza ubonakale ungeneka kakhudlwana. Ngokuvumela umona ukhule, ungabonakala ngezindlela eziningi eziyinkinga ezizozama ukukuphuca amandla akho. Yimise emikhondweni yakho ngokuzenza ubonakale unamandla kodwa ungenaphutha.
Umthetho 47. Ungadluli Umaki Owayewuhlosile: Ekunqobeni, Funda Ukuthi Ume Nini
Lo mthetho uphambene kakhulu ne-intuitive. Uma uqala ukuba nempumelelo, kuhle ukuyinambitha kodwa qaphela ukuthi ungayiyeki ekhanda lakho ngoba ngesikhathi sokuzwa lawo mandla nemizwa enamandla, empeleni uzobe ubuthakathaka futhi ube sengozini.
Qaphela ukuze ungazethembi ngokweqile.
Umthetho 48. Thatha Ukungabi Nasimo
Uma uguquguquka futhi uthambile awunasimo okwenza ungabi sengozini yokuhlaselwa.
Yonke into iyashintsha ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngakho-ke yamukela lo mqondo wokuguquguquka futhi wamukele ukuthi iqiniso lihlala lishintsha.